Compramise, is it a better way of life?

Now living in the west, i get to see the western life closely. Many unknown facets of the society were seen. Many times I wished I should have come here young, any way those are dreams. Back to reality.

Married life in the western world , I found full of individualism. From the moment the marriage takes place both are under pressure that it should last longer. I never understood that even after living together for 10-12 years committing to marriage is seen as pressure on themselves. Why beyond my thinking .

Where as in the Asian community marriage happens once in life and no matter what it takes, it never results in the divorce. There is hardly anyone who had an opportunity to tryout any thing before marriage, forget about living together for even one day.

Here no one is making an attempt of deciding which is better way of living life, and I am sure this debate will result in no agreement. It will be a big mistake even to initiate the debate.

In both ways of life i.e. Western or Asian the marriage is based on the foundation of compromise and understanding . I see it is like elastic band if you leave it other gets hurts or if you stretch it too much it will break and both will be hurt. So the compromise between two will ensure that the existence of the rubber band is not felt at all.

But to live together on the foundation of compromise needs a better understanding of each other, other wise the all efforts will result into more pain ,like in straighting of a dog tail. Also be careful that you may create a person like a child who develops a habit of getting everything by crying loud.