Compramise, is it a better way of life?

Now living in the west, i get to see the western life closely. Many unknown facets of the society were seen. Many times I wished I should have come here young, any way those are dreams. Back to reality.

Married life in the western world , I found full of individualism. From the moment the marriage takes place both are under pressure that it should last longer. I never understood that even after living together for 10-12 years committing to marriage is seen as pressure on themselves. Why beyond my thinking .

Where as in the Asian community marriage happens once in life and no matter what it takes, it never results in the divorce. There is hardly anyone who had an opportunity to tryout any thing before marriage, forget about living together for even one day.

Here no one is making an attempt of deciding which is better way of living life, and I am sure this debate will result in no agreement. It will be a big mistake even to initiate the debate.

In both ways of life i.e. Western or Asian the marriage is based on the foundation of compromise and understanding . I see it is like elastic band if you leave it other gets hurts or if you stretch it too much it will break and both will be hurt. So the compromise between two will ensure that the existence of the rubber band is not felt at all.

But to live together on the foundation of compromise needs a better understanding of each other, other wise the all efforts will result into more pain ,like in straighting of a dog tail. Also be careful that you may create a person like a child who develops a habit of getting everything by crying loud.

Religon is it required?

"Religion is it required ?" a question by Clive , my English friend.
"not really if you have other means of discipline in the life" me
"why to you need discipline" Clive
"discipline , this word is used in the wider context here and it is required to have structure in the society. Bring in the respect to elders. Hierarchy in the family and to understand the importnace of relations"
"But there are many without any religion, so do you mean they do not have discipline" Clive
"No , I think it is other way round the one do not discipline is not following any religion"
"This going nowhere" Clive
" Example , you do not follow any Faith but you get marred in the Church , follow all rituals after death, so if you look at it carefully they are part of the discipline of the some religion.
some one has helped you in understanding difference between good and bad thery by enabled to make choices. Importance of helping other was also told to you inderetly thereby doing charity and so on"

"so faith is discipline" Clive
"Yes, and without discipline we will be no less than heard of cattle and would not have any values built in to relationships."
"I will not say I agree 100% but I understood what you mean " Clive


After this discussion , I could not find answer to the question that what would I be without any religion. Still scratching the brain ...............

For many of friend like Clive here is one of many links to feed your gray cells.

http://www.open2.net/historyandthearts/philosophy_ethics/philosophy_p.html